Tomorrow is Another Day...
Monday, September 5, 2011
To Celebrate or Not?
It seems like when you become an adult all the holidays and birthdays take on new meanings. Personally, I don't feel the need to ask people to take time out of their busy schedules just to focus on me and my birthday. Once again, this year was no exception. I had no interest in celebrating my birthday (or cleaning before and after) and was very content with our little weekend get-away at the end of the month! However, my husband wasn't having it. So, I put aside the thoughts about the amount of cleaning and work it takes to put on even the simplest parties and decided to give in. The reason, you might ask...well truthfully to bring a little joy to my hubby! I know how much he enjoys celebrating those he loves, and I love him too much to deny him that joy!
Of course now that the invitation has been sent, I notice that I'm "getting into it"! Although we are keeping the food simple, I'm brainstorming and trying to come up with ideas of what to do to decorate or activities for the kids to enjoy. There aren't a whole lot of little ones in our families at the present time, but I still feel bad that the few that are around don't really have anything to look forward to when coming over to our place. So I am trying to figure out something for them...other than throwing on the 1-2 PS3 games that we have.
Anyways, this is a short post...but something that is on my mind nonetheless!
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Been a Long Time
I'm still not sure why I have always had this personal monster, my mom even recalls that it all just kind of started once I started kindergarten. Something in me just snaps and I have to put on the red cape and become super woman and do everything and anything that needs to be done, and never ask for help because that would be my kryptonite. I can't have a weakness and I sure as heck can't let anyone ever see it, right?
Well, the good thing about being an adult (or trying to be one) is the lessons we seem to see a bit clearer. I'm starting to realize that I'm not alone and that I don't have to try and do everything perfectly by myself; no one expects me to. I'm still not sure where this urge stems from, and I may never know. However, I do know that I MUST get a handle on it before we start building our family. I can't even imagine trying to work full-time, clean/maintain a home AND be a positive interactive influence for our kids...if I have this immature sense of having to "do it all".
I think that this is partially why I left blogging and facebook alone...I was so busy criticizing myself with work and home that I just didn't want to bring in another audience to judge me. I was doing enough judgement on myself! Plus, I started to notice that I was getting very judgmental and cynical because of facebook. I was letting things that people posted get to me and I found myself building with fumes over the idiotic things people would post. So, I distanced myself. I am starting to agree with my husband to a point that facebook is a waste of time. However, it is one of the main forms of communication that I have with some people, my baby sister for instance! I never know when she has a phone, I don't know her email address or if she ever checks it...but I do know that I can get a hold of her on fb :-)
Anyways, I kind of realized that this blog is more for me and I don't really care if anyone reads it, agrees with it or learns from it. In the end, it's kind of my therapeutic outlet; me time. I think (to a degree) that we all should allow ourselves to be a little selfish from time to time; to take care of ourselves and allow ourselves a moment to be happy. The main reason: well if you aren't happy why on earth would people want you around?
Life is a juggling act, and people like me who try to juggle too much on their own eventually fall, hard! So, my new personal goal is to:
- Ask for help
- Let the less important "plates" fall
- Realize that I can't do everything perfectly
- Realize that NO ONE expects me to do everything perfectly
- Truly give things over to God
p.s. I cannot wait til our little Vegas get-away next month...I need some R&R!
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Removing the Unnecessary
Well, I personally think people and relationships can be the same. People come and go in our lives all the time. Childhood BFF's that you never went anywhere without, you no longer talk to; that one guy you dated that you "just couldn't live without" is now the last person to ever cross your mind. Many times it's because you've simply grown out of that relationship; it's not to say that that particular relationship didn't hold any value to you, but more that you just evolved to other people who fit better into the person you became/are becoming.
Many times for me, I go through and re-evaluate the relationships that I have to see what kind of value I'm getting out of them. This may sound very selfish, and yes I must admit, it very much so is. However, when you can go through and look at a relationship and see that in every possible way you have been the one that puts into it and the other person only ever takes...you start to wonder "why do I even bother?" Relationships are a two-way street, and if the other person never gives back or only does so to a degree so that they can look good in front of people, then I'm sorry I have no desire to be around that.
Honestly, I'm not one to really give up on relationships, I have had many friendships/relationships far longer than they should have ever lasted, simply because I give people the benefit of the doubt and hope that one day they'll be there for me just like I have been there for them. I also genuinely like to help people, I go out of my way to try and make other peoples lives easier and hate the thought of not helping and/or being there for them. However, eventually I do wake up to see that I have been taken advantage of, and then I get tired of being the doormat and I walk away.
I'm at a point in my life where I am building my own family, I love my husband very much and will do anything for our relationship. If people in my life cause unnecessary clutter and stress on me, then it causes unnecessary stress on my relationships. Why would I allow such acts to happen in my life? Life is stressful enough without having to worry about what someone is going to do to you next, and if you're constantly in a state of dismay or worry whenever those people call, email, or text....then isn't that a sign that you just sort of need to "clean house"?
I've been praying a lot about this recently, and I know there are still things that I need to learn and understand before "finalizing" any kind of decisions...so in the meantime, I will continue to pray and continue to try and give it over to Him.
Proverbs 22:24-25
Saying 3
24 Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person,
do not associate with one easily angered,
25 or you may learn their ways
and get yourself ensnared.
Monday, July 4, 2011
Perspective
Romans 12:2
New International Version (NIV)
2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Human Affect
It actually took me many years and growing in my faith to accept the fact that the "bad" in our lives is not God punishing us. Most of the time when things just aren't going right (in my experience) it has been because of one of two reasons (or sometimes a good 'ol fashion combo):
- It's been caused by Humans
- My walk with God isn't aligned
So, what do I mean by these reasons? I will try to explain, but I for one didn't fully understand until I grew and trusted in God more. So, for some of you this blog will sound like some crack-piped "excuse" and for others you will completely understand!
Personally, many years ago I had lost faith for a while. I had reached a "low" in life and could not believe that a loving God could have allowed me to go through such pains and situations. It was after many discussions with my husband (then boyfriend) to realize that all those "things" and situations that I had gone through were because of people (myself included), not God. That's when I realized that I would never allow another person's actions, words, etc. cause me to stumble in my walk again.
Naturally, we all say "I would never allow someone to come in between me and God", but you'd be surprised at how quickly and easily it can happen! For instance, have you ever lost your temper because of something someone said or did or didn't do? Then that means you have allowed that person to come in between your walk with God. I struggle with this continuously!
My second reason above, well, do you ever have moments (sometimes many chapters) in life where it's just one thing after another, and you just never seem to get a break? Again, in my own experience this seems to happen when I'm getting off course. When I'm trying to steer my own life instead of trusting in Him and walking the path that he wants me on. God will never purposely bring harm my way or try to hurt me, instead God sets up warning signals with flashing yellow lights to try and get me to see that the path I'm on is heading in a dangerous direction.
This doesn't mean that God doesn't test me from time to time though! Life is full of lessons, some more difficult than others...but no matter what something can always be learned to bring us closer to Him. It may take several years for us to learn the lesson(s), but eventually the blinders will be removed and we'll see it clear as day!
I was reading in Psalms last night, that really reminded me of my own struggles and experiences where I felt like a victim...but looking back on it I realize that many times I was a victim of my own offenses!
Psalm 10:10 - 15 (NIV):
10 His victims are crushed, they collapse;
they fall under his strength.
11 He says to himself, “God will never notice;
he covers his face and never sees.”
12 Arise, LORD! Lift up your hand, O God.
Do not forget the helpless.
13 Why does the wicked man revile God?
Why does he say to himself,
“He won’t call me to account”?
14 But you, God, see the trouble of the afflicted;
you consider their grief and take it in hand.
The victims commit themselves to you;
you are the helper of the fatherless.
15 Break the arm of the wicked man;
call the evildoer to account for his wickedness
that would not otherwise be found out.
Sunday, June 19, 2011
Sometimes You Need to Recharge!
I had fully planned to go to the gym this afternoon/evening to try and burn off some of the calories taken in today (we had gone to the gym yesterday, so I was pretty content with that). However, I finally came to accept the idea that everyone should have a day to recharge. So, instead I relaxed with my husband and when he went to bed (since he works tonight), I decided to allow myself a little nap as well.
When I first woke up from my nap, I felt a little frantic like I should be doing a list of other things instead...almost as though it was wrong for me to enjoy some down time and just do nothing. Normally, this would encourage me to start working on something or going and taking care of some errands. However, instead I've decided to just prepare and make dinner and then call it a night.
I think we all need some "down time", and most importantly to allow ourselves this down time without feeling guilty. We run around all week with our to-do checklist, sometimes getting so worn down with the necessities that we forget to put time aside for ourselves and most importantly time aside for God. I'm just as bad about this as the next person, but I am realizing more and more that I actually "need" it more than anything. We seem to need the relaxation; physically, mentally and most importantly we need it spiritually.
So I will enjoy my quiet time in peace and most of all am thankful to God for allowing me this time.
Exodus 20:8-10 (NIV)
8 “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. 9 Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns.
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Wondering Thoughts
Today started off as a slow moving day for me! Took me an hour to get up and out of bed to get ready for work! Yes...an hour...I had set my alarm for an hour before I needed to actually be up, in hopes to have the motivation to go running. For those of you that know me, you know mornings are NOT my thing! Well, big surprise...I didn't go running this morning.
It was definitely a coffee "must" kind of morning...especially with the overcast/sprinkling morning that we were having. You know those kinds of mornings where you wished you could just stay in your PJ's and possibly be by the ocean, until the sun burns off the layer of muck and then you can go relax in the sun. So, to move my morning along, I grabbed a mocha and a cinnamon chip scone from Panera (because I am still on my Starbucks strike) and headed into work. Fortunately, my morning at work was pretty calm and relaxing. This allowed me adequate time to wake up fully in time for my busy afternoon.
On the way home, my mind started wandering...about random stuff too! I take a lot of side streets home to avoid the cluster of freeways. On my particular route, there are a lot of open fields (which is difficult to find in Orange County). Near an old military base, there are these large trees. However, these particular trees are not planted in the ground. Instead, the trunks of the trees are surrounded by large pieces of wood and the entire thing sits on top of the ground, they look like they would be fairly easy to transport with cranes/trucks. (I'm assuming that these trees get sold to people who want larger trees for their property?) Anyways, oddly enough I started to think that the roots of those trees must feel so claustrophobic being trapped all the time in the wood! Then naturally I thought, what an impossible thing to think of, trees don't "feel".
Then I remembered a video I had seen on facebook earlier in the day that had a little kitten playing with one of those hamster balls and it somehow managed to get inside of the ball and just kept playing while laying in the thing. Now mind you, the kitten wasn't exactly fitting too well in this ball, but at the same time it did not seem to concerned about getting out. I didn't have time to watch the whole video to see if it ever did get out on its own, but again, I started thinking do cats get claustrophobic?
Then I just kind of chuckled at myself...why am I so concerned about things feeling claustrophobic? Especially about things that I have no way of helping and that don't even need help! I still don't really have an answer to why these thoughts were popping into my mind. However, I am assuming that it has to do with the fact that there are so many things out of my control (in reality, nothing is in my control) and I just need to accept that. This is an on-going battle for me. Letting go and letting God lead...I'm sure this is a struggle for so many people. But, I really think that I do need to start with the simple things. Those things I mentioned above are way out there, but the fact that they even crossed my mind as a "concern", I find concerning! If that makes sense?
So slowly, I will let go of all the little nonsense things that I worry about (for some strange reason) and know that God has it all figured out and he will tend to everything! Thank goodness...because there's far too much out there for me to worry about! LOL!
So, I end with this passage:
Isaiah 54:10
Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed," says the LORD, who has compassion on you.